This is good. But why have men historically offered protection and provision? Isn't that what women not historically ask for? I would agree for men to stop offering protection and provision(money) to women as they typically they no longer offer what they use to which is fertility and homemaking. Many men have already adopted this approach. So what can we offer that women will be receptive too? Not just what they say they would want but what they will actually act upon.
I've got a whole post coming on the first question.
As for the second, I don't think we'll ever know because, throughout most of history, there wasn't another option for women to choose from. If your options are protection and provision or death, and you take protection and provision, it doesn't mean you want protection and provision, just that you don't want to die.
As for what you close with, I would suggest we start by not thinking of dynamics between men and women transactionally and start thinking relationally. I'm dating the woman I'm dating because she invites me to be me, she encourages me to do meaningful work, and because there's a peace that comes with being in her presence. She tells me that she feels seen, and respected, and loved.
Now, in are there some protective and provision elements in that, yes, but they are the ones she's wanting, and they're the ones that haven't been offered in past relationships where a guy ran with a traditional protection and provision framework. Although, until you spend time with someone and get to know them, you'll never be able to sort out what those things are and if the two of you actually vibe together.
You nailed it beautifully. Thanks for your voice of reason !
This is good. But why have men historically offered protection and provision? Isn't that what women not historically ask for? I would agree for men to stop offering protection and provision(money) to women as they typically they no longer offer what they use to which is fertility and homemaking. Many men have already adopted this approach. So what can we offer that women will be receptive too? Not just what they say they would want but what they will actually act upon.
I've got a whole post coming on the first question.
As for the second, I don't think we'll ever know because, throughout most of history, there wasn't another option for women to choose from. If your options are protection and provision or death, and you take protection and provision, it doesn't mean you want protection and provision, just that you don't want to die.
As for what you close with, I would suggest we start by not thinking of dynamics between men and women transactionally and start thinking relationally. I'm dating the woman I'm dating because she invites me to be me, she encourages me to do meaningful work, and because there's a peace that comes with being in her presence. She tells me that she feels seen, and respected, and loved.
Now, in are there some protective and provision elements in that, yes, but they are the ones she's wanting, and they're the ones that haven't been offered in past relationships where a guy ran with a traditional protection and provision framework. Although, until you spend time with someone and get to know them, you'll never be able to sort out what those things are and if the two of you actually vibe together.